Daddy Dearest

His warm, enormous callused hand;

Smooth splendid castles made of sand.

His stories charm his girls to glee.

All wrapped in magical mystery.

He sweats all day to make them smile.

For them he treks that extra mile.

To fathers no sweet odes are sung.

No mere mention on hoardings strung.

What wouldn’t I do for his love so fine.

In mercy steeped his heart does shine.

My dad, my knight in hallowed grace.

In our lives he has the most special place.

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I am really close to my family and feel blessed to have their overwhelming love in my life, at the same time I am painfully aware of how it’s something that we all do take for granted at times. There is a lot of selfless love and dedication that goes into work in our relationships and I don’t think any words of gratitude would ever do any justice to the kind of support and affection we get from them.

Our family bonds and how much they count on our emotional scale depends a lot on our lifelong interactions within the family circle and how circumstances have shaped our opinions about them. Fortunately for me they are the most endearing relationships, perhaps for some others, they might be a tad distasteful. I wish that wasn’t the case but sadly we do not dwell in a perfect world.

My father has been my ideal superdad, my superhero, Mr. Fix-it-all and best buddy, all rolled in one sweet concoction. That is one of the reasons why I feel that fathers don’t actually get enough appreciation for their contribution in our lives. It is always moms who take the cake and a delightfully huge chunk of it. Not that they don’t deserve that kind of kudos, but I feel sometimes we undermine the quintessential and most appealing father quotient in the family.

We traditionally look at them as essential breadwinners and disciplinarians but not caregivers. That tag is allocated to moms who seems naturally more appropriate to the role. But my dad doesn’t fit into the stereotypical mold; he’s a breadwinner who aces on the caregiver status. There’s absolutely nothing that he hasn’t done for his family. In fact all the men in my family circle make me feel it’s unfair to undervalue these fantastic dads. My dad, my husband, my brother-in-law and many others around me prove just that to me.

Daddy always made all my childhood Sundays special with his delicious breakfast treats. Oh yes, he loves to cook and is a true masterchef in the kitchen and does it with so much passion and oodles of affection that it’s wonderful to work as his sous chef. He shows how to handle things competently instead of ordering around. Even when I started working I always woke up to a perfectly laid out breakfast plate, a steaming cup of tea and my clothes neatly pressed too.

He is the kind of dad who always got totally excited about all my school projects and later even my work assignments. If I stayed up late nights working on something he’d stay up to help too. When me or my sister visit our parents, daddy still helps us with the kids and often loses sleep trying to soothe my collicky baby back to bed.

These are actually just a few things that I mention here; an inch from seamless miles of ceaseless love and care. Most fathers give loads of selfless attention to their families but we don’t give them much credit for it. All those overtimes, extra jobs on top of the already stressful full-time jobs and then the perfectly honest indulgence in their family life; there is a lot that we tend to overlook about their role in our life.

I wish we could all reflect on how blessed we are to have their sturdy hands to hold on to. I wish we could show our appreciation to our parents more often and not just on birthdays and father’s day.

I penned this poem for my dad. It’s not the perfect gift but he sure made it seem precious. Love you daddy!

 

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17 thoughts on “Daddy Dearest

  1. Mahevash

    Loved it. Fathers will always have that special place in our hearts. No words to express how wonderful this article was . Reminded me of my dad whom I idolise and found so farsighted that to even this day when he is long gone still pass on his quotes and advices to my children.
    May Allah swt grant him jannat al firdouse Ameen. Love you dad forever.
    Thank you for the article Shaheen.

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  2. Anwar khan

    Good article in appreciation, love & affection towards your father. Your father was only 0 zero . You. & your sister’s achievements in life started adding to my success quotient. Both of your continued successes in all the fields of life have added to my life . I am proud & thankful to Allah for such lovable daughters, who are good
    wives , adorable daughter -in-laws, fine mothers & best humanbiengs . May .Allah give daughters like mine to every parents…Ameen.

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  3. What a beautiful writing! There are no words to express our love to our fathers, they turned us into great human beings by being there for us and support us and love us while we carry many defects and faults. They are a gift that we have to cherish for the rest of our lives!

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  4. Nidha Nausheen

    Such a amazing lines bhabi!!! Beautifull !! “Dad” a very special person in all of our lives. The love between dad and daughter is forever.. he is always willing to sacrifice his comfort for that of his children.. and love him soo much… I love you pappa😘 You will always be my hero..
    My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when i was small..
    Ameen

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  5. Elizabeth O.

    That’s a beautiful poem to honor fathers for what they do best, which is take care of us. I think it’s awesome that you have such close family ties. Not many have that kind of relationship with their family.

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  6. What a beautiful post, this! You are so very lucky to have this sort of love in your life. Trust me, coming from a family who lives thousands of miles from each other and no one speaks to anyone else, there’s a big gap in my life for this kind of love.

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  7. I have to be honest..what you have written here shocks me! That’s not to undermine the sentiments you have expressed toward your father, brother, etc, or to say that good dads don’t deserve love and recognition…they do…but I seriously, desperately want to live in this world you have described in which mothers get all the attention and recognition and dads are shoved to the wayside.
    In my experience, moms are expected to be homemakers, and often times money makers on top of it, and not given any special kudos for it; it’s just an expectation. WHERAS while fathers, true, don’t get a TON of reward for working (besides being paid money for it…a pretty big deal) they get ENORMOUS recognition for doing any kind of homemaking/child-rearing tasks. Nobody has ever complimented me for holding my child or soothing a crying baby (in fact just the opposite; it’s not uncommon for people to step in when a mother is dealing with an upset baby in public) while my ex, who by the way was abusive and ONLY helped in public where he could get credit, would constantly get compliments and people would tell him he was a “great dad” just for holding his son.
    I agree that dads are in some ways underestimated; they are not expected to be caretakers to such an extent that when they are, they receive extreme accolades for the simplest actions that *should* just be an expectation.
    Anyone who cares for a child should get kudos for it, regardless of gender, because childrearing is HARD. But in the world I live in, men get that, a lot, and women simply don’t.

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  8. Mercy G

    Wow, I´ve never read a beautiful post that honored dads like yours did. You are blessed to have him, what with all the MIA or absent dads. Having said that Elizabeth B does have a point. Moms have gotten wayyyy too little acknowledgment for their selfless Ms Fix-it-all roles.
    We need both for healthy kids.

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  9. Tiara Wilson

    I absolutely loved this. First, that image that you posted just made my heart melt. I love when dads are so involved in their littles lives. It’s absolutely amazing to see the bond between our kids and their fathers and even more so, capture their memories and moments together.

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